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I'm not convinced this is a "feminine" trait, and obviously not a uniquely feminine one. Authoritative men are often attributed with the ability to "read the room." Macho attorneys know when to zero in for the kill. Gamblers, dealmakers all pride themselves on their theory of mind and ability to intuit.

Supposedly intuitive women are also remarkably obtuse about people who are sirens-blaring, red-flag-waving trouble to their dads and brothers: predatory alpha males, death row inmates, deranged transgenders, for example. This is the case so often I'd actually describe the callow Nicholas Garrigan character as the one with the feminine trait, easily manipulated by the predatory, seductive Amin.

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What is strikes me as feminine about "big man" Trump is not his intuition but his "taking everything personally" pettiness, his thin-skinnedness.

This just isn't how I think of actual alpha-maleness. I don't see George Washington feeling compelled to get into some tweet war with critical nobodies the way Trump does. Can't see Tom Brady feeling the need to snap back at some pipsqueak who thinks he's not the GOAT. Nor Jack Nicklaus or Tiger Woods. Same with captains of industry. Don't see Bill Gates or Steve Jobs or Bezos or Elon or earlier, Carnegie or J.P. Morgan this thin skinned. Would Ceasar be firing off a tweet storm when some provincial yahoo was insufficiently pandering?

To me the key characteristic of maleness is *doing*. You are what you actually *do*. (I'm for instance a boring dad-provider type. I don't pretend to be a big swinging dick anything.) Men who have to make a lot of noise are kind of a joke. Real men just "walk the walk". At least for white men.

Real men's accomplishments speak for themselves, so they do not act like 16 year old mean girls constantly hen pecking to keep status.

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