Big Man Syndrome
As the Idi Amin biopic "Last King of Scotland" illustrated, one of the strangest paradoxes about Big Men is how feminine their minds can be.
From my 2007 movie review in The American Conservative of The Last King of Scotland:
Forrest Whitaker finally enjoys a suitably beefy role in “Last King of Scotland” as the 1970s Ugandan dictator with the surrealist name, Idi Amin Dada. At a self-proclaimed 6’2” and 220 pounds, Whitaker is still smaller than the real Amin, who was the most entertaining of all the monsters of the 20th century, a megalomaniacal cross between Joseph Stalin and Muhammad Ali. Sure, Idi was a semiliterate cannibal, but he was a likeable one.
Amin reveled in such self-bestowed titles as Lord of All the Beasts of the Earth and Fishes of the Sea and Conqueror of the British Empire in Africa in General and Uganda in Particular. An admirer of his former Scottish officers in the King’s African Rifles—“I love everything about Scotland! ... Apart from red hair, which your women may find attractive but which in Africa is quite disgusting”—Amin saw himself as the natural leader of a Caledonian independence uprising: “the Last Rightful King of Scotland.”
Although Whitaker is the frontrunner for the Best Actor Oscar, Amin technically is a supporting character. The fictional antihero protagonist—played well by young James McAvoy, who must be seven inches shorter and 80 pounds lighter than Whitaker—is a callow Scottish intern, who, like so many of his ancestors who built the British Empire, flees dour Presbyterian boredom for some fun in the tropical sun. While working in Uganda in 1971 as a mission doctor, idly trying to seduce his boss’s wife, he’s called to bandage the injured presidential wrist.
In Giles Foden’s 1998 source novel, the Scottish doctor recalls, “I couldn’t help feeling awed by the sheer size of him and the way … he radiated a barely restrained energy. … I felt—far from being the healer—that some kind of elemental force was seeping into me.” The doctor accepts Amin’s impetuous offer to become his personal physician. He is soon advising Amin on policy, while trying to ignore the reports of political opponents being fed to the crocodiles, too mesmerized by the Big Man’s outlandish charisma to flee.
“The Last King of Scotland” may be the best exploration yet of the Big Man syndrome, which, while most notorious for afflicting Africa, is hardly restricted to that continent. A Big Man’s grandiose sense of entitlement assures him that he deserves to run things. What’s odd is how often the rest of us, like McAvoy’s doctor, agree with him, sometimes against our better instincts.
Big Men tend to be more masculine in physical and emotional traits like muscularity, self-confidence, and aggressiveness. But as the film illustrates, one of the strangest paradoxes about Big Men is how feminine their minds can be. Whitaker’s Amin displays what would be called female intuition in anyone who’s not such a mountain of a man. He can read the doctor’s secrets off his face and then use his mercurial personality and verbal suppleness to charm and terrify him into obeying his sinister will rather than simply going home to sane Scotland.


I'm not convinced this is a "feminine" trait, and obviously not a uniquely feminine one. Authoritative men are often attributed with the ability to "read the room." Macho attorneys know when to zero in for the kill. Gamblers, dealmakers all pride themselves on their theory of mind and ability to intuit.
Supposedly intuitive women are also remarkably obtuse about people who are sirens-blaring, red-flag-waving trouble to their dads and brothers: predatory alpha males, death row inmates, deranged transgenders, for example. This is the case so often I'd actually describe the callow Nicholas Garrigan character as the one with the feminine trait, easily manipulated by the predatory, seductive Amin.
What is strikes me as feminine about "big man" Trump is not his intuition but his "taking everything personally" pettiness, his thin-skinnedness.
This just isn't how I think of actual alpha-maleness. I don't see George Washington feeling compelled to get into some tweet war with critical nobodies the way Trump does. Can't see Tom Brady feeling the need to snap back at some pipsqueak who thinks he's not the GOAT. Nor Jack Nicklaus or Tiger Woods. Same with captains of industry. Don't see Bill Gates or Steve Jobs or Bezos or Elon or earlier, Carnegie or J.P. Morgan this thin skinned. Would Ceasar be firing off a tweet storm when some provincial yahoo was insufficiently pandering?
To me the key characteristic of maleness is *doing*. You are what you actually *do*. (I'm for instance a boring dad-provider type. I don't pretend to be a big swinging dick anything.) Men who have to make a lot of noise are kind of a joke. Real men just "walk the walk". At least for white men.
Real men's accomplishments speak for themselves, so they do not act like 16 year old mean girls constantly hen pecking to keep status.