Should Whites Be Allowed to Defile Nonwhites?
South Asian women want to know!
Newspaper and magazine advice columns are still big, but these days, in comparison to the golden era of Ann Landers and Dear Abby, they come with more racist anti-white hate. Thus, from the Washington Post:
Ask Sahaj: Isn’t it racist to insist your kids marry within their race?
Letter writer wonders “why aren’t the South Asian parents who demand their daughter marry only another South Asian labeled ‘racist’ too?”
April 16, 2026 at 9:44 a.m. EDT
Column by Sahaj Kaur Kohli
Dear Sahaj: I would love your take on the subject of parents wanting/expecting/demanding their child to marry someone of the same background. It seems whenever the family is non-White, the reasons are always excused as “cultural continuity” or “familial heritage,” but if the same circumstances occurred with a White family, the parents would immediately be labeled “racist” for wanting their daughter to only marry a White man.
Why aren’t the South Asian parents who demand their daughter marry only another South Asian labeled “racist” too? It feels like a double standard that they should be called out on. Everyone should marry whomever they want!
— Double Standard
My general view is that it’s hard enough for young people to get married these days without hindering them with racial hang-ups about whom they should marry.
But this Washington Post columnist wants you to understand that it’s understandably okay for nonwhites to object to interracial marriage; while whites objecting is of course the usual hateful racism that you’d expect from those vile whites, although in her case she personally happens to have married a white man, but don’t you bring it up, you racist white, you, you sexy beast.
Double Standard: As a South Asian, daughter of immigrants and granddaughter of refugees, who is also married to a White man — something that did cause conflict with my parents for a while before they became supportive — I am so glad you asked this question!
We have to consider that the difference in how we label these behaviors between a “White family” and “non-White family” isn’t arbitrary; it’s shaped by history, power and context. Racism and prejudice are about privilege and advantage.
After all, Ms. Kohli explains, we Indian-Americans average the highest incomes. But that’s not the point, the point is that you whites suck, except for my hubby.
When White families insist on “staying within their race,” it’s often tied to a long history of exclusion, segregation and maintaining dominance or supremacy.
My scientific estimate is that in the long history of South Asians, being oppressed by white Americans comprises out of everything that has ever befallen South Asians, about …
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